Jack was interested in catching the attention of cool guys and girls in school so that they could later consider him to be one of them. Jack tried every method he knows to impress them, but they never noticed him!!
Jack started to feel bad because of believing that those “Cool people” are ignoring him on intention. Jack’s Ego was hurting him, and he was eagerly searching for a way to feel important once again after the ones he was interested in ignoring him.
Like the millions, Jack decided, of course, to be arrogant!! Arrogance is a subconscious defense mechanism.
Why are some people Arrogant?
Jack’s mind found that being arrogant could be a solution that can make him feel important once again and can heal his wounded ego. Still, he was facing a big riddle; how can he become arrogant while people are already ignoring him? How can he claim that he is better than those who aren’t interested in him?
Actually, Jack didn’t practice his arrogance with those people, but instead, he picked the ones he regarded to be less worthy than him and then treated them with arrogance!!
Jack started to use labels like losers, geeks, and incompetent to describe categories of people who appeared to be less important than him.
The truth about arrogance
Arrogant people failed to be respected by others who are important to them, so they found no solution other than to get it by force from those who appear to be less important to them.
Arrogant people are insecure.
We were in a public place, and suddenly this beautiful girl came in. Whenever her eyes met the eyes of any other person, she smiled at him gently.
A friend of mine then came and told me, “Hey, what’s with this pretty girl who is smiling to everyone.” For my friend, that seemed like weird behavior, but for me, it seemed like a perfectly healthy behavior that is rare nowadays.
This girl was 100% sure that she is attractive, she knew that people like to be around her, she was extremely confident, and she wasn’t arrogant by any means!!
Do you know how she would have behaved if she was arrogant? She would have done the exact opposite! not only would she not have smiled at people, but she might have ignored those who smiled at her as well!
Arrogant people act that to devalue others so that they can appear worthy! Insecure people only use this strategy.
Why arrogant people are insecure
Before I tell you why arrogant people are insecure, let me first tell you how a secure person thinks.
A person who feels good being himself never fears rejections because he never puts high weight on people’s opinions. Because he thinks that way, he becomes friendly with most people unless someone forces him to do the opposite.
The girl in the previous example felt completely secure, and that’s why she was friendly with almost everyone. Of course, her behavior was not that common because the majority of people feel insecure.
An arrogant person, on the other hand, is a person who fears rejection and who cares about the opinion of others. Because he is not happy being himself, he fears to do any action that shows others that he is interested in them so that if they rejected him, he doesn’t look bad.
A person who feels insecure might approach you while frowning or speaking arrogantly to prove to you that he is not interested in you. He does so to prevent you from thinking that he is interested in you just because he feels insecure.
Arrogance, insecurity, and rejection
I’ll start by rejecting you before you do it!
That’s how many arrogant people think!
They arrogantly treat others because they are not sure that they will approve of them. Had they been confident that they would have been approved by others, in other words, had they been secure, they would have been as friendly as the girl in the example above.
I know that you might start to think of other examples where people become arrogant even though they didn’t care about others’ approval. In such a case, read part II of this article to understand what else can make a person arrogant.
