Lately, I started to wonder why I can’t find a single forum online that has no bullies. Whenever I come across a forum, I find people making fun of others, usually humiliating, and I also find others cheering for those bullies.
It’s not uncommon for a comment by a bully to get up-votes by other members who saw the thread. The first thing you need to understand about those bullies is that they are usually mentally unstable.
Any behavior that a person does is usually done to serve a certain purpose. This purpose is, in many cases, unconscious. So a person could do a certain behavior without actually having any idea about the goals of his subconscious mind.
When a person’s life gets messed up or fails to reach some important goals in proper ways, he might find himself trying to reach those goals in a socially unacceptable way.
Both the serial killer and the professional surgeon might be trying to reach the same goal of being famous and popular. While the surgeon tries to achieve the goal in a social acceptance manner, the serial killer does it the wrong way simply because his mind is messed up.
Anonymity encourages cyber-bulling
The first thing that encourages a person to become a cyberbully is that writing on the internet is anonymous. Unfortunately, many cyberbullies wouldn’t have enough courage to act the same way if their identities were exposed.
There was an anonymous app called secret, which allowed people to say whatever they wanted anonymously. Unfortunately, many humans forget about ethics and do immoral behavior when there is no proper supervision. This is why so many of the posts on the secret app were negative, racist, and totally inhuman.
But again, if a person isn’t a bully, becoming anonymous won’t make him a bully. It’s just the fact that this person was already a bully before finding this opportunity that gave him extra courage.
Cyberbullies lack social interest.
According to individual psychology, so many personality disorders result from some people don’t have social interest or empathy for others.
Studies have found that most online bullies don’t feel empathy for their victims and hardly feel guilty about their deeds. This kind of lack of social interest can reflect selfishness, egotism, and narcissism.
A person who lacks social interest is more likely to engage in activities that can harm others. This could start with simple aggression and can grow until the person becomes a criminal.
Cyberbullies might have troubled lives.
Some studies have shown that many Cyberbullies suffer from anxiety, depression, low social skills and are more likely to be drug addicts. In addition, some cyberbullies come from dysfunctional families where the loss of control they experienced motivated them to try to control others to feel good.
Many Cyberbullies are actually people who were bullied by others or bullied in their homes, and as a result, they decided to choose weaker victims to exert more control on them and thus feel good.
More reasons for cyber-bullying
Some cyberbullies are attention seekers who bully others into shifting their attention to them. While those bullies might think that people love them, the truth is that many of their haters don’t dare to speak the truth in order not to get bullied by them.
Studies have shown that most cyberbullies have aggression tendencies. There are many causes for aggression among humans, but some of them are doubts about one’s masculinity, being treated aggressively at home, or even lacking self-confidence.
In short, there are so many reasons that could lead to cyber-bullying, but in all cases, a cyberbully is a person who suffers from mental health issues and who is in serious need of help.
