How to Become Emotionally Resilient

Why can sometimes a negative comment about your appearance or actions changes your mood?
Why do you sometimes feel bad in few seconds right after a particular event happens?
Why do specific problems bother you so much and give you a hard time forgetting them?

We all have flaws and weaknesses, and this allows specific comments and events to bother us. This is a fact that can’t be changed, but why do some people rise again after being knocked down, and why do some people remain down for prolonged periods?

While you can’t become invulnerable to life problems and negative comments, you can learn how to develop emotional resilience so that you don’t give a chance to questions to bother you for long periods.

Why you are not emotionally resilient

If you want to become emotionally resilient, you should first answer why certain events and comments make you feel down?

The following are the reasons you feel bad after hearing a specific negative remark or after facing a particular problem:

You are afraid: If, for example, you were not satisfied with your weight and were making a lot of effort to solve this problem, then someone told you that you aren’t making any progress, then most likely these questions will come to your mind: what if I am going in the wrong direction? What if the actions I am taking are the wrong ones? could I be wasting my time? Those questions will trigger fear, which will contribute to your destructive emotions.

You are afraid that the situation repeats itself: If you were involved in a verbal fight then lost it, then most probably you will feel bad afterward, and one of the main reasons for your bad feelings will be fear of facing the same situation again and handling it poorly once more.

You don’t have a solution to the problem: If someone reminded you of a situation you can’t solve, you would probably feel terrible about it. After all, if someone told you that your shirt looks awful because of the newly acquired stain, then most probably you won’t feel that bad because you know how to solve this problem. But what if someone told you that you are a boring person? if you were not sure of your social skills, then you might feel terrible about that simply because you don’t know how to solve the problem

Tips to become emotionally resilient.

Based on the previous facts, we can conclude that to become emotionally resilient; you need to:

• Promise yourself that this won’t happen again: That sounds good, but how can it be done? After all, your subconscious mind will never believe you if you just promised it that you wouldn’t allow someone to hurt you anymore because it needs proof. If you couldn’t defend yourself during a fight, for example, then joining martial arts classes will be the perfect way to reassure your mind that this won’t happen again. Affirmations or positive thoughts could not convince the subconscious mind, but instead, it needs real proofs to believe you.
• Don’t be helpless; educate yourself: There is no living human who can solve all of the problems he is going to face in his life, yet some humans never fail to solve their problems; why is that? Simply because those people educate themselves about the problem and the solution whenever they encounter one. In short, instead of crying, go and read a book or ask a professional so that you move out of the helpless zone.
• Take actions right away: You will never become emotionally resilient before learning how to respond quickly to changes. If you added the new problem to your list of existing issues, you would remain down, and you will never rise until you start taking action.