Anger is an emotion that our minds use to help us preserve our rights and make sure that we are acting in a way that protects our well-being. If someone took your turn in a queue, you might become angry because your right to being served first was violated.
However, our minds don’t always make us feel angry because of these reasons, but other reasons could confuse our minds, making us angry even though they should have never affected our emotions.
Sometimes people become angry because someone unintentionally reminded them of an old wound that they haven’t cured.
If you lost your temper because someone told you that he doesn’t like the way you dress, then preserving your rights wasn’t the reason for your anger, but it’s remembering your old wound (for example, not being satisfied with your self-image) that made you angry.
If a person were 100% happy with his looks and self-image, such a comment would have never bothered him.
The problem that prevents this wound from healing is that the person never realizes that his injury was the reason for his anger, but instead, he blames the other person thinking that he is the one who should have behaved differently.
That’s why some of us react badly to specific comments while others don’t even notice such words. Most of the time, you become angry; you will find that the underlying reason is an emotional wound that you were reminded of.
Heal the wounds
As long as this wound is there, you will become angry whenever someone reminds you of it. People who always shout and always became angry so fast have more than one wound that needs to be dealt with. Unless those people deal with their wounds, they will lose their temper for the slightest reason.
Anger won’t only affect your health and your relationships with your friends, but it can also lead to breakups. Suppressed emotions that result from anger pile up until they cause relationship dissatisfaction.
Anger will affect you first before it affects those around you, and if anger’s role is to help you maintain your well-being and preserve your rights, then don’t let some emotional wounds confuse the perfect system God gave you.
