Body Language: Understand when someone is Flirting or Hitting on you.
Researches have found a direct relationship between the states of feeling that we experience and our gestures. For example, if you felt happy, your body will make certain gestures that are different from the gestures it will take if you feel sad.
So If you managed to know the gesture associated with a certain emotional state, you would be able to detect the presence of this emotional state. The same goes for flirting because it’s just an emotional state; if you knew the body posture and the body language changes associated with the state of flirting, you would easily know if someone is trying to flirt with you.
Flirting Signs and Gestures
Whether you find them strange or find it hard to believe in them, they are still clear signs of flirting. These signs do not represent my opinion about flirting body language, but they are proven facts. I am not asking you to believe in them without testing them, but all I’m asking you is to test them and see for yourself.
Here the body language flirting signs:
- Pupil size: When someone sees something or someone that he likes, his pupil size gets bigger!! I know that this is a bit hard to notice, but by training, you will detect these slight changes in pupil size and so know if someone likes seeing you.
- Playing with her hair: This sign is for girls only. When a girl wants to flirt with someone or finds him particularly interesting, she may start to play with her hair (twist it or flicker it). This could happen once or several times during the conversation; the more the sign happens, the clearer the message is!!
- Pointing towards you with his toes or feet: If someone was interested in you and if he wasn’t sitting right next to you, then he will point directly towards you using his feet or toes. A clearer flirting sign is when he sits with his body totally facing you.
- Seeing his/her teeth through the smile: A smile should be wide enough to reveal at least the front teeth. Otherwise, it may be a fake smile or a smile that has nothing to do with you.
- Keeping you in his/her line of sight: The person who is flirting with you will try to keep you in his line of sight. As a result, you may find him taking a look at you now and then, or you may find him continuously orienting himself to be facing you even if he is standing with someone else.
- Clothing: The person will generally pick his favorite clothes and wear them if he believed that he would possibly see you. You could ask him about his favorite colors and observe whether he wears them a lot when you’re around or not.