Body Language

Body Language: Understanding Defensive Behavior (The Defensive Position)

When someone becomes offended, he takes one of the most famous gestures in body language, which is called the defensive position. In the defensive position, the person crosses his arms (folds them) and sometimes crosses his legs. People take this body language gesture when someone says something that offends them or doesn’t appeal to them.

Examples of the body language defensive position

Suppose you met a friend, and the first thing he said to you was, “Hey, where did you get that awful shirt from? It doesn’t suit you at all”.

In such a case, if the comment bothered you, then you might find yourself taking the body language defensive position. Because Your subconscious mind doesn’t think using logic, it believes that by crossing your arms, you will be protecting yourself from that comment you didn’t like, and that’s why it’s was called the defensive position.

How to Deal With a person when he takes the defensive position

  • If you are in a negotiation with someone and he took the body language defensive position, then know that he didn’t like something that you said
  • If someone took the defensive position after you criticized him, then make sure to apologize to him because this gesture shows that he was offended.
  • If you were a salesperson and you were talking to a customer about the price of a product, then you found that he suddenly took the defensive position then try to be flexible and to talk about something else other than the price because his body language indicates that he didn’t like it.
  • Always use your mind to determine whether the defensive position was taken because the person was offended or because of any other reason. For example, a person could take that position if he was feeling uncomfortable or cold.

Train yourself to avoid taking the defensive position

The defensive position can let you leave a bad first impression in a job interview or a business meeting. You must teach yourself how to avoid using that defensive position.

The training process should involve being conscious of your gestures. While the body movements of any person happen on the unconscious level, you can easily keep them under monitor by paying attention to any changes that happen in your posture.

In the beginning, you will find it difficult to keep up with every move you make, but as time passes, you will get used to noticing these changes.

Once you start noticing these bad gestures, bring your body back to a relaxed state. As time passes, you will be able to prevent yourself from taking such gestures whenever needed.

Your body language can control the impression people form of you. You can leave an impressive impression that can make someone become attracted to you by changing your body language a little.

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