The Right Way to Argue with People and Always Win

• How many times did you find yourself arguing with people but reaching nowhere?
• When was the last time you failed to convince someone?
• When was the last time you lost an important debate?

Debating isn’t usually a good idea because it sometimes results in hatred and jealousy between people. However, there are certain times where you will find yourself defending a noble cause and not having any options other than going into a debate.

At this point, winning the debate could be a must, and there might be bad consequences if you didn’t win it; that’s why I decided to write this article to tell you how to win debates.

Tactics for winning debates

• Once you are stuck, respond with a counter-attack: If someone asked you a tough question, don’t get stuck by trying to reply to it but instead distract him with a tougher question. Example, A friend: I don’t think your suggestion will work. You: If mine failed, then yours will never work because it has lots of flaws
• Move away from the areas that the other person is comfortable with: You don’t have any chance of winning when debating with someone who knows more than you. That’s why you must always lure the person away from the areas he knows a lot about
• Drag him to areas that he knows a little about. If someone doesn’t know how orange looks like, you can convince him that anything is an orange. Once you drag a person to an area where he has little knowledge winning the debate would be an easy task.
• Use his own belief system: One of the biggest mistakes people make when debating with each other is that they refer to their own belief systems instead of the belief system of the person they are debating with. For example, if someone believes in a certain religion, then quote some of his religion’s sayings to support your argument.
• Sometimes you have to prove it by example: In certain situations debating would lead to nothing, sometimes you have to show the person by example that he is wrong, and once you do that, you will certainly win the debate in seconds. If there is any chance of showing him what you mean, then do it right away.
• Self-confidence can be more convincing than facts: The more confident you appear to be, the more you will convince people faster, and the easier you will win debates.
• Use social proof: Once you get two other people to agree with you, then debating with a fourth person will be a piece of cake; according to social proof theory, most people won’t go against three people simultaneously.
• Use information and facts: People tend to believe more in statistics, numbers, charts, and tangible evidence. It will be easy to win a debate once you provide a person with some of them.

Play the devil’s advocate

It’s always a good idea to get prepared before an important debate. Try to figure out the most important questions you will be asked and think of solid answers in advance.

Your subconscious mind can help you come up with perfect answers to important questions provided that it has time. If you slept on the questions, you might find new great answers popping into your mind the next day.

One final piece of advice is to avoid arguments and debates whenever possible unless there is an essential matter being discussed. This will help you make fewer enemies.