confidence<\/a> and happiness had been lost. Ever since that day, David became an unhappy, desperate, and bad-tempered person.<\/p>\nWhat happened to David? What happened to his confident and strong character?
\nWhat happened is that his wife’s call made him lose his psychological identity.<\/p>\n
What is a psychological identity?<\/h2>\n
Identity or\u00a0psychological identity<\/b> is your capacity for self-reflection and awareness. People usually acquire their identities through the tasks they do and the objects they identify themselves with. For example, if you asked someone, \u201cwho are you?\u201d He replied, \u201cI am the restaurant\u2019s chef, \u201cThis person identifies himself with his job and thinks of himself as the chef instead of Robin or Tom.<\/p>\n
Here are some examples of people identifying with other objects or other people in life:<\/p>\n
Identity with a person:<\/b> Children who try to imitate their parents and dress like them are doing so because they attempt to identify with their parents.<\/p>\n
Identifying with a job:<\/b>\u00a0A person who proudly speaks of his profession and answers the question of \u201cWho are you?\u201d with his job\u2019s title is a person who is identifying himself with his job.<\/p>\n
Identifying with an object:<\/b> A person who proudly drives his big car may be identifying with his car. He shows that he is rich but because he thinks of himself as the \u201cExpensive Car Owner.\u201d This is usually the same person you will find him walking with his head down when he suffers from the financial crisis that forces him to replace his car with a smaller one. This happens because he identified himself with his car, and so when the car was gone, he found himself with no psychological identity. He used to be the “Expensive Car Owner,” now he is nothing.<\/p>\nDavid’s psychological identity<\/h2>\n
Now let\u2019s go back to David. David identified himself as the \u201csuccessful person\u201d who has a great career and a loving wife. If you asked David, “who are you?” he might have replied saying, “I am David, the successful engineer.”<\/p>\n
So what was David’s problem, and why did his self-confidence desert him? David’s problem was that he identified with a mortal object, namely, success, so as soon as the object was lost, he lost his psychological identity and felt worthless.<\/p>\n
Psychological identity Crisis<\/h2>\n
Identity Crisis is a psychological term that describes someone who’s in the constant state of searching for his identity. The identity crisis doesn\u2019t refer to the real crisis, but it just describes a normal personality development stage. Now the real problem happens when the person fails to find a suitable identity and a fragile one.<\/p>\n
As soon as the person who didn’t find the right Psychological identity faces a big life challenge, he will usually lose this fragile identity and search for a new one. Haven\u2019t you ever met a person who always seems to be trying new roles over and over without adhering to any of them?<\/p>\n
This is usually the behavior of a person who is suffering from an identity crisis. Identity crisis can give a powerful blow to your self-confidence and your self-image, and that\u2019s why building a solid identity is something that can make you more confident and more solid when you face life challenges.<\/p>\n
Some people even go a step further and identify themselves with their relationship partners to the extent that they fail to get over them just because of the fear of losing their identity. You\u00a0can get over this problem by announcing the breakup as soon as it happens so that you help yourself develop the new identity quickly.<\/p>\n
How to avoid a psychological identity crisis?<\/h2>\n
As you saw in David’s story identifying with a mortal object (his success in professional and family life) resulted in losing his identity when he lost that object.<\/p>\n
David should have identified himself with his skills and abilities instead of identifying himself with his achievements because even if he lost his achievements, his abilities and skills wouldn’t go. After all, it’s his abilities and skills that made him succeed, and by identifying with them, he will be able to protect his self-worth better.<\/p>\n
If David identified himself as \u201ca persistent, intelligent and strong person,\u201d he wouldn’t have faced an identity crisis at all.<\/p>\n
One of the perfect things that you could do is to identify yourself with God!!!<\/p>\n
“Who are you, sir?”…\u201cI am God\u2019s Servant.\u201d Can anybody lose this identity? No, it\u2019s the most solid identity that someone can ever acquire because, in this case, the person is identifying himself with an immortal… God himself!!! People who identify themselves with God tend to feel more worthy because they believe that if they were not that important, then God would not have created them.<\/p>\n
Religion and Identity<\/h3>\n
What\u2019s so bad is that some people get involved in new things just because they are trying to find an identity. For instance, some people try to get into religion to identify themselves as religious people or preachers.<\/p>\n
Of course, I am in no position to say whether God wants those people or not, but what I can say is that the people who learned about religion because they found solid facts for creation such as these are much better than those who got into a religion such because they want an identity.<\/p>\n
Identifying with Objects<\/h3>\n
Some people go further and identify themselves with precious objects and even places. For example, when someone creates a group on Facebook, \u201cI love Starbucks,\u201d then make sure that he is trying to identify with that place because it makes him feel more worthy.<\/p>\n
This doesn’t mean that all people who join online groups want to seek an identity, but of course, some of them did it for that reason.<\/p>\n
Final Words about psychological Identity<\/h3>\n
The more you make your psychological identity dependent on your job, wealth, friend\u2019s love, or any external object, the more likely you will lose this identity when you lose that external object.<\/p>\n
On the other hand, the more you make your identity dependent on a constant, the less likely you will suffer from a psychological identity crisis.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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