Want to get over this bad mood?
Do you often get into bad moods?
If you want to get rid of something, then you should first understand it.
Most people experience bad moods without even knowing why. They relate these feelings to the first thing that comes to their minds, like a recent fight they had with their boss or just the stress they get subjected to.
The bad feelings we experience at any moment are the result of the combination of different emotions together.
We rarely feel down because of stress alone, guilt alone, or anxiety alone, and if only one of these emotions were present at a time, you wouldn’t have had any problems tolerating it. It’s the combination of different bad emotions that makes us feel horrible.
In fact, you might be feeling bad for a completely different reason than the reason that came to your mind, and the key to getting over bad moods is to understand their root cause.
Getting Over Bad Moods by Understanding the Main Cause
We feel bad at any point in time; we will be experiencing a combination of fears, worries about the upcoming events, feelings of regret about our past, and feelings of irritation because of small issues that are currently bothering us.
For example, you might be feeling bad about your past at a certain moment. You didn’t manage to achieve what you wanted to achieve, feeling worried about the future because you are afraid to fail to reach your goals and feel irritated because the weather is hot.
To get rid of these negative feelings, you don’t need to solve all of your problems right now; you need to get rid of the small issues that irritate you, reduce the worries, and forget about the past.
Your current state of feeling results from all of the life experiences you have been through up until this moment.
The fight you had yesterday with your close friend and the bad grades you got the day before representing only a little part of your current emotional state.
The good things that recently happened to you are also a part of this same emotional state, even if you don’t feel good now.
For example, today’s compliment you received from one of your friends is a part of your current emotional state.
Summing up all the good and the bad things that happened to you will result in the resultant mood, which is the current emotional state you are experiencing now.
If twenty things were bothering you at the moment while 10 of them were totally out of your control, then you can definitely feel better by changing the 10 that you have control over.
How to Get over These Bad Feelings?
If you understand the previous concept, you may have already guessed that fixing one totally unrelated problem to your bad mood can make you feel better.
For example, if you have lots of problems, like work-related stress, exams, and a recent break-up but managed to lose some weight in between all of this mess, you will end up feeling better even though you still did nothing to solve these problems.
When Small Problems Accumulate, they result in bad moods.
Many people developed the bad habit of accumulating small problems thinking that they should first deal with the bigger ones.
This is one reason that leads to bad moods because when simple problems accumulate, they make bigger ones even worse.
This faulty key in your keyboard, this car you have to fix, and this important phone call you have to make will make your big problems worse without noticing.
Small problems act as multipliers to bad emotions; if you are feeling so down, then doing any of the following might make you feel much better: Go to the bathroom if you need to, take a hot shower, eat if you are Hungary, drink if you are thirsty or clean your room if it’s not tidy.
Small issues such as wanting to eat or wanting to bathe might not impact our lives directly, but they increase the bad feelings we experience. Dealing with small issues will guarantee that your bad mood will not become severe.
You might feel bad because of a problem you are facing, but because you are sitting in an untidy room, these bad feelings might intensify, and you may feel down.
In short, solve your small problems as much as you can, and your overall mood will certainly be better.
Stress can multiply your bad feelings by 10 times or even more. Ensure that you know how to deal with stress because it’s one of the vital requirements for preventing bad moods from intensifying.
Worries about the future
You might be worried about what’s going to happen tomorrow, or you might be afraid to encounter a certain problem that you can’t solve.
Worries can be dealt with easily, you don’t have to solve all of your problems today, but you need to provide a signal to your mind that you will solve these issues.
For example, if one of the problems that are bothering you is your curved belly, then you should start to exercise your abs for 10 minutes right away. Then after you finish, you should write a schedule for exercising for the next few months.
Just like most of your hunger fades away as soon as you start eating, most of your bad feelings will fade away as soon as you start taking action.
Depression, guilt, and regret
All of these feelings are related to the past. Dealing with the past is not hard. You need to change your future; after all, if you were feeling bad because you weren’t successful in the past, then being successful will make remembering the past a pleasant experience.
Some people say that the past can’t be changed, but the truth is that the past can be changed by changing the future.
Accumulated Problems Trigger Bad Moods
You are always in a state of receiving information from the world through your five senses. The more unresolved problems you have, the more likely you will receive data that can remind you of these problems and make you feel down.
For example, being overweight will make it more likely for you to feel bad whenever you pass by a mirror or whenever you over-eat.
In this case, over-eating and seeing yourself in the mirror reminded you of one of your accumulated problems.
Now imagine that you have ten unsolved problems. What do you think will happen to your mood? You will always come across things that remind you of these problems, and the result will be feeling bad most of the time.
Your Body Language affects Your Mood Too.
I bet that anyone could be feeling down then find that his back is straight. If you’re feeling disappointed, you’ll always find that your back is not straight.
This posture affects your emotions, too: just like your emotions affect your gestures, your gestures affect your emotions.
Sit with your back straight for a few minutes, and you will start to feel better.
Falling Prey to Negative Thinking
As soon as we feel down, the negative thinking cycle starts. We start to misperceive everything, we anticipate more problems, and as a result, we feel even worse.
Any small negligible change may be considered a threat: your torn shoelace will become a great problem, and not finding your other shoe will appear to be a gigantic one.
The solution to this problem is to break the cycle of negative thinking. Stop thinking of the new problems and start to think of how to solve the current ones. Please don’t fall prey to your thoughts and your imagination but instead master them and don’t let them take control over you.
Know Your Enemy to end your bad moods
Knowing the reason behind your bad mood can be as effective as solving a few small problems. Simply because not knowing the reason behind your bad feelings is considered another problem, reflected in your bad mood.
To summarize: You need to do to end bad moods: Isolate your problems, start solving them one by one, and don’t accumulate small ones. Break the cycle of negative thinking, and you will reduce your bad feelings.
Bad mood for no reason
Do you know why do we like confident and cheerful people?
Because they make us feel confident and happy as long as they are around.
It was found that we replicate the feelings of the person we come in contact with, and that’s why our moods change after interaction with other people.
If you saw a poor person suffering, you will feel bad because you have replicated the feelings he is experiencing; of course, everyone does it differently. That’s why there are sensitive people and people who have no empathy. Still, in the end, we all replicate the feelings of others when we come in contact with them.
Catching a bad mood
This brings us to a critical point: bad moods can be transferred from one person to another even if they had no reason to feel bad.
How many times have you felt stressed right after being with people who were stressed out? Even walking on your legs beside a traffic jam can catch some of the stress the drivers are experiencing.
Prolonged stress can lead to depression. If you deal with people who are always stressed out, you will catch depression sooner or later, even if you had no reason to become depressed!!
You can even catch depression if you keep staying with depressed people for prolonged periods. You will keep replicating your own emotions until you lose the ability to differentiate between your own emotions and theirs. It is contagious.
How to not catch bad moods?
Avoid being around people who are always stressed, angry, or sad. Of course, if you are helping a friend feel better, then it’s an exception, but if you found yourself in a place full of strangers who are stressed or angry, then you must leave at once.
On the other hand, try to reduce the time you spend with depressed people, especially if you were facing a hard time and more vulnerable to depression.
Just like a cold can be caught, bad moods can be caught too. Be aware of this fact and avoid catching unnecessary emotions to live a happier life.
Start taking actions
What are you waiting for? Take actions, write plans, get rid of small issues, start over, and fight back. The bad feelings you are experiencing now are just messages; some respond to these messages by taking action while others stay down for prolonged periods.
The choice is yours, whether you want to be among those who fight back or those who stay down.