How to Attract Someone’s Attention Right Away
In most cases, love doesn’t happen at first sight, but instead, we gradually get attached to the ones who catch our attention. Love happens in two stages; in the beginning, someone catches our attention and stands out from the crowd. If that person did the right things after catching our attention, we would probably start to think about him even more.
As we keep thinking about that person more and more, we start getting more attached to him until the emotions become so intense that it would be hard to get him out of our heads.
This is why attention-grabbing is the first step that should be taken to attract someone to you. Without doing that first step, all of your good traits and qualities might be overlooked.
How to attract someone’s attention
Most people make the most common mistake when they try to catch someone’s attention because they use a one-size-fits-all approach. The problem with so many self-help websites is that they recommend specific methods to get the attention of men or women without understanding that each person has their own specific needs.
Based on our needs, our radars start to look for certain kinds of people. If the radar found a person who broadcasts signals that show that he can help us with our own specific needs, it gives us an alert.
In other words, to grab someone’s attention, you need to get inside his mind first and find out what exactly he is looking for. And by saying that, I am not referring to superficial stuff such as looks or clothes, but I am referring to the deep psychological needs each person has.
Now, if you used a certain strategy without studying your target well, you might even turn them off. This is why some of the amazing methods you already know never worked. Simply because what’s amazing for a person might be considered a turn-off for someone else.
Real-life example
Jane and Susan were sitting together in a public place. Suddenly a good-looking skinny man appeared in their sight. The man’s voice was low, he sounded anything but assertive, and he didn’t seem so sure of himself.
Jane, who had a strong need to feel safe and secure, yawned as the man walked in front of her, a sign that she didn’t find anything interesting about him. On the other hand, Susan, who a controlling mother raised, always wanted to be with a weak man to control him.
Susan found the man very interesting and said that to Jane, who found it weird. It’s essential to know that neither Jane nor Susan understood the reasons behind their feelings.
As I said earlier, the unmet needs and psychological goals are controlled by the subconscious mind. It’s rare to find someone who understands how his subconscious mind works unless he goes deep into psychology.
So the takeaway is: do your research before you try to impress a person else you might mess up.
